Parenting 2015

It’s 2015 and being a parent, I believe is harder than ever! Being a parent, is a 365 day, 24 hour job. Even if your children are grown, you still worry about them, pray for them and even try to encourage them when possible. Then you come to the point as a parent to remind your child that no matter what it’s because of you that they exist.

Sometimes a child gets into their finite mind that they know more than the parent. Disregarding the fact that you were once their age. I often say “been there, done that, wrote a book about it and now its a best seller!” Meaning that we as parents have not only the knowledge of what they’re doing but the ability to know and let them tell on themselves. It’s a gift that I would always wonder how my mom knew I wasn’t doing the right thing until i started raising kids myself.  (Proverbs 20:11 Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure and whether it be right. KJV)

Unfortunately the children of today have to deal with things that I didn’t know existed at their age.  They deal with bullying on a whole other level. So much so that they are taking their own lives to not have to deal with it. Long live the days of squaring up on the playground and then best friends by the time recess is over. I pray for all children that they learn and/or someone teach them that their life is precious.

If you have teenagers, JESUS BE A FENCE!                                               As parents in 2015, they deal with talking back, attitudes to the 100th power, selfishness, ungratefulness, Facebook, twitter, snap-chat and any other social media. As I’m thankful that all of the children that i had the privilege of taking care of are grown, it also shows me that I don’t thing i could do it now. It was rough with a house full of teenage girls in the early 2000’s. The prayers, the crying, the self doubt of not raising them right, the sleepless nights, and the making sure they knew who Jesus Christ is and they will need Him always was more than enough.  (Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. KJV)     

Parenting 2015 requires much more physical, spiritual, mental and emotional guidance than ever before. We have to return to some of the ways of old of sitting down and talking with our children at the breakfast, lunch and dinner table. Talking without judgement and attitude even if you don’t like the topics. The key is for us as parents to listen and for them as our child to share what they’re dealing with. Even when they think its lame at first, they will never forget the talks, nor the time you let them get it all out just to show them that your Love for them is always there no matter the situation.

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IJS (I’m Just Saying)

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I received a phone call last night that was really a shock to me.So much so that I didn’t even have an emotion to explain. I wasn’t sure how i felt afterwards except for a moment a bit confused.Before I received that call i had already made plans for the evening of homework, a snack and more homework. That call put a stop to my plans as I tried to figure out what i did, why I received that call at that particular time and what was the real issue behind it.

As I pondered these questions I still came up with nothing. Then i figured it was a ploy to keep me from the task at hand of doing well in school and staying focused on my studies. I admit, it had me hostage in that state for longer than I should had been. As I realized that i was spending to much time rehearsing it over in my mind that i was losing valuable time for my studies. I got up and went on with the task at hand.

As I thought all was well, I couldn’t fall asleep and when I went to bed. When i did get to sleep it felt like I had just closed my eyes. Unfortunately, I woke up with the same mess on my mind. Still trying to see the purpose and cause of it. But nope I got nothing. I finally got myself together and asked God, “WHAT WAS THAT?” I was still feeling some kind of way. He then reminded me of JOB 1:8 And the Lord said unto Satan, Hast thou considered my servant Job, that there is none like him in the earth, a perfect and upright man, one that feareth God and escheweth evil?  

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Just as Job, I am a servant of the Lord. With that comes a mighty price. Things are not as easy as one may think for a servant of the Lord but the rewards are tailor made and endless. Yes, we as Christians go through our trials and tribulations. Whether it comes from a crazy phone call from out the blue or a bad situation that we get ourselves in to, and/or one that was tailor made all of it is a learning process and it all works out for our good. ROMANS 8:28 And we know that ALL things work together for good of them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.

In all this I’m Just Saying, Stay on the task. Keep Moving Forward on the road that The Lord has you on. It gets hard, it gets tiresome, it even gets frustrating but in the end just remember that anything that’s worth having takes some work. Keep working and looking towards the end of every goal. God Got YOU and ME!!!  

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The Lord always know just what we need. As I sat down still feeling some kind of way at school to have breakfast before my next class the following songs came on my Ipad
1. Never would had made it. by Marvin Sapp
2. Moving Forward by Israel Houghton
3. Restored by J. Moss
4. God Favored Me by Hezekiah Walker
5. Take Me to the King by Tamala Mann (Now I’m feeling my help coming)
6. My Heart Says Yes by Troy Sneed
Full worship has started now and the last song that now I see that Only God Knows is 
7. HOW GREAT IS OUR GOD
AS I’M TRYING REAL HARD NOT TO SCARE THE PEOPLE CAUSE I JUST WANT TO STAND UP, SHOUT AND DANCE(but I just cried and thanked God!

IJS GOD KNOWS

Dating Woes?!?!?

A friend sent me an email with the website for a Christian dating site as a joke. When I first saw it I started laughing. At the end of the website address she wrote “don’t you miss it?” Yes, I’ve looked into the dating site out of pure curiosity. It was one of the most funniest and eye-opening moments of my adult life.

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In my curiosity it was not an easy task. Trying to do a profile to attract people to look at the things you wrote about yourself was sort of difficult for me. It was hard because you want people to see you and get to know you not the flowery things one can write about themselves. So I thought.

Then there’s the task of trying not to be to stiff-necked or as some may say too churchy. What is that about? (That’s a whole other blog sessions all by itself! LOL!) in doing all the things the website tells you to do like post a picture so people can see you. Of course a person is going to pick out the best dressed up picture they can find. So I thought! Then there’s the wonderful task of describing your physical self. Ok, why, No never mind that’s another blog session too. Then comes the things you like, do’s and don’ts, and the best part what are you looking for in a mate.

Through out the whole process, what seemed to may take a few minutes turned into hours of trying to market myself to the best of my ability. For me my best marketing skill is you have to see me in action for yourself because any person can write anything and be the total opposite.

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In all that preparation and tediousness I looked at the top of the page where it has you to log in at and it had as the title of the page the name of the site and Psalms 37:4 “Delight yourself in The Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.” When I read that, I got convicted in my spirit and erased everything. It occurred to me that this was an oxymoron! I asked myself why was I doing this? If The Lord told me to desire Him, then He will give me not only what I desire but what I need as well. It reminded me that it’s all in his time and not mine. I didn’t want to put my life in my own hands again. Been down that road and it didn’t go so well for me! LOL! I had to realize who the Lord has for me will be for me and not to rush to doing it myself. That has in the past came with a heavy price of heartache and pain.

Dating overall for some is fun and adventurous. For others it’s a nightmare and you’d rather just not do it at all. So with this experience of the dating website under my belt I will stick with the task The Lord has me on now. When he’s ready for me to go down the road of dating I know without a shadow of a doubt it will be a short one. For He will give my Mate and not just a Date!!!

Trusting in Jesus

Knowing Him

Lena asked, “Hey Sissy, when did you get a new friend?” “I’m not sure what you’re talking about. I’m not seeing anyone”, replied Sissy. “Are you sure?” replied Lena. “Yes I’m sure… Why?” “Because every morning at a certain time I see how you look at your phone. You get all excited and sometimes I even see tears in your eyes. So who is it? Only a man can get you all excited like that.” “No, it’s not like that at all”, replied Sissy with a chuckle. “Yea, sure it isn’t! You might as well just spill it. Who is he?

“Well Lena, if you really must know his name is Emmanuel. He’s such a wonderful person. I can talk to him about anything. It’s so amazing that when I’m talking to him he doesn’t mind listening. He even told me to never give him any rest from talking to him!” “Wow! What kind of man is this?” asked Lena with a shocked look on her face.  “Let me tell you. He’s even a counselor when I feel like my mind is going crazy. When I talk to him he listens so close that as he speaks back to me it seems as if he’s whispering but I can hear him loud and clear. You know even when I feel sad he stops whatever he’s doing and wraps his ever so loving arms around me with so much comfort it’s amazing!”

Sounds like you’ve hit the jackpot with this one, replied Lena. “To be truthful that’s how I feel. We spend so much time together that when I don’t have him next to me I feel lost and even sometimes confused. But, when I get like that he seems to show up right on time. I’ve never been in a relationship like this and I’ve prayed that it never ends.” “Well sounds as if you’re in love.” “You know Lena, now that you’ve said that I can actually say that yes I am. I mean who wouldn’t be in love with a man that was a comforter, a counselor, and caring person as he is.”

“Emmanuel told me that he will be with me till the end of the world. What man would do that and mean it?” “Wow! I’m happy for you. I can only pray that one day I can meet a man that will treat me like that, replied Lena.” “You can! I’ll introduce you to him.” “What? Are you crazy? I’m not sharing your man! No, not doing it!” “No silly, I’m not talking like that. Emmanuel is just one of his names. His most common name is Jesus Christ! I have a relationship with Jesus! He’s the only man that I would say is wonderful, a counselor, a comforter, and even a mind regulator!”

“Every morning when you hear my phone go off, it’s the alarm for my daily word from the bible! I get excited and teary eyed because he has given me a new day with new mercies. Only a true and living God can do that. I get like that because he woke me up just so I can read his word. I get like that because not only did he wake me up but he gave me another chance to strive for perfection in him. When I’m reading his word he is showing me that our time together is special. His word is how I’m getting to know him better. That’s where the tears come in at. If it wasn’t for the word I can only imagine how my life would be. But since I have accepted him into my life and most importantly my heart, my relationship with him has made me a better person. So much so the things I used to do I stopped doing them and the places I used to go that was not pleasing to him I don’t go anymore.

Since I’ve gotten to know him, he has never let me down. So I guess you can say that I do have a man in my life.  His name is Emmanuel! I can call him that because he is always with me. That’s why I said I want to introduce you, so he can be with you too. You know, the best part of my relationship with Jesus Christ is that I get to share him with the world. Now do you know him? If not allow me to introduce you to Him!”

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TODAY

TODAY

Today I’m standing firm on the word of God

Today I’m saying hallelujah anyhow.

Today I’m trusting the Lord.

Today I’m moving forward.

Today I’m striving for the best.

Today I’m leaning on the Lord.

Today I’m depending on my provider.

Today I’m loving anyhow.

Today I’m believing in the Lord.

Today I’m not worrying.

Today I know my God will come through.

Today I’m looking forward to my change.
Today I’m getting closer to my goal.
Today I’m opening my mind to new possibilities.
Today I know my God has not forgotten me.
Today I’m letting go of the negativity.
Today I’m working harder.
Today I’m worshiping just because.
Today I’m singing no matter what.
Today I’m Praising my Lord and Savior for He is keeping me.
Today I’m striving to be more holy.
Today I’m surrendering it all to the Lord.
Oh yes, Today I have Risen

He Has RISEN!!!

He is not here: for he is risen, as he said. Come, see the place where the Lord lay. (Matthew 28:6 KJV)

Happy Resurrection Sunday!!!
I’m thankful to our Lord and Savior for His Resurrection Power!!!

Thanksgiving

Saying, Amen: Blessing, and glory, and wisdom, and thanksgiving, and honour, and power, and might, be unto our God for ever and ever. Amen. (Revelation 7:12 KJV)

In celebration of Thanksgiving I just want to say we should be thankful always!

Every day is a new opportunity for us to show our gratitude to the Lord. He is just that Good!

Have a Great Thanksgiving!